Happy New Year!!
Would you consider yourself successful? Why or why not? I guess you’ve probably heard the saying “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” well I believe the same thing should ring true for success.
According to dictionary.com -success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.
How do you define success? Does it change based on other people’s accomplishments and expectations ? Do you consider a woman successful if she’s educated, an entrepreneur, has a closet full of designer clothes and handbags, a big home, a bank account full of money? What about if the children are in private school and a wealthy husband?
What if she doesn’t posses any of those things; would you still consider her successful? What if she had a few life setbacks- she has an older model car, and lives in an apartment? What if she shops at Ross and she doesn’t desire marriage or wealth; however, she desires to be an office manager and live a life of peace and contentment?
Have you ever accomplished a goal and you were proud until you compared it with someone else’s life?
I remember when I was a little girl, my brother taught me to tie my shoes. I was so happy! My happiness dwindled when I found out the other kindergarteners were pros at tying their shoes .
I was proud when I completed my college degree after many years of on and off schooling, but I noticed people my age had multiple degrees and sadly I didn’t feel as successful.
I’ve had numerous conversations with women over the years and the reality is, they usually feel successful until they hear about someone else’s accomplishment. They started feeling their accomplishment was minimal in comparison to the women in their circle, on their jobs and on social media.
They set goals and put time and effort to achieve the purpose, but they allowed their words and thoughts or the words of others to make them feel mediocre.
Why does someone else’s success have to make us feel that we haven’t succeeded? It was their goal, so it’s their success. That’s not what you wanted… You went after what you wanted.
- To thine own self be true- Learn yourself, so you can determine what’s important to you
- Material things doesn’t equate success- Material things come and go and they shouldn’t define you
- Success takes perseverance, and it’s not for the faint at heart- your success IS a big deal
- Don’t allow society’s standard of success diminish your accomplishment
- Success looks different at different time frames in your life- Remember you’re always evolving
- Stop putting an “Only” on your accomplishments
If you want to go back to school… Go!
If you want to learn a new skill… Do it!
If you want to write the book… Write it!
If you want to start a healthier lifestyle… Start!
If you want to start a business … Go Ahead!
If you want to travel… Get your passport and travel!
If you want peace… Pursue it!
If you want to grow spiritually … Seek God!
You Can Do All Things through Christ who Strengthens You Philippians 4:13
Make a commitment to define your own success, and don’t allow society to define it for you. I’m learning that my success is not determined or dependent on the next person’s success. I don’t have to downplay what I consider success .
Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans. Proverbs 16:3
Be Kind, Be Bold & Be a Woman on the Move