Envy- a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck ( Dictionary.com)
Raise your eyebrow if you can admit of ever been envious. Envy isn’t a trait that we usually boast about having, but It’s an hidden issue that’s rarely spoken about. We don’t know how that emotion arises in us, but we become ashamed of having those feelings.
Our human nature is all about “Self”. I want it, I deserve it is what we say to justify our feelings. I deserve to be first, I deserve to win, I deserve to live there, I deserve that vacation, I deserve that relationship, I deserve that career, I deserve that… The list goes on and on.
There have been occasions that I felt like I deserved something that I didn’t have… I started with a whirlwind of questions; why wasn’t I good enough to have this thing? What was I lacking? Why did that person get it and I didn’t get it? Women tell the truth, what crosses your mind when someone have something you think you deserve?
I know for me when I would start focusing on all the things other people had, I stopped being grateful for the things I had. I begun devaluing my blessings and accomplishments only focusing on what others had.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t desire more out of life. However, there’s a problem when you believe you’re more deserving than the other person. Envy that’s not dealt with turns to bitterness and hardness of the heart.
As women we should be uplifting, encouraging, supporting and rejoicing for one another…. Envy will have you putting down, gossiping, secretly hating and discouraging the woman right beside you. Remember there’s process and sacrifice behind everything you see in another person’s life.
Behind envy is usually insecurity, doubt and fear….
What can you do to rid yourself of Envy?
So put aside every trace of malice and all deceit and hypocrisy and envy and all slander and hateful speech; ( 1Peter 2:1)
“A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones” (Proverbs 14:30)
- Examine your heart
- Make the confession of the emotion
- Remind yourself of all the great things that you have in your life
- Remember God knows the plan He has for your life
- Be anxious for nothing
If you find yourself envious of another person’s life, don’t beat yourself up. Pray and make yourself a grateful list. I remember this song from my youth the chorus is ” Count your blessings, name them one by one. Count your many blessings see what God has done”!
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