Happy New Year!!

Hey Girl,

Would you consider yourself successful?  Why or why not?  I guess you’ve  probably  heard the saying  “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”  well I believe the same thing should ring true for success.

According to -success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.

How do you define success?  Does it change based on other people’s accomplishments and expectations ?  Do you consider a woman successful if she’s educated, an entrepreneur,  has a closet full of designer clothes and handbags, a big home,  a bank account full of money? What about   if the children are  in private school and a wealthy husband? 

 What if she doesn’t posses any of  those things; would you still consider her successful? What if she had a few life setbacks- she has an older model car, and lives in an apartment?   What if she shops at Ross and she doesn’t desire marriage or wealth; however, she desires to be an office manager and live a life of peace and contentment?

Have you ever accomplished a goal and you were proud  until you compared it with someone else’s life? 

I remember when I was a  little  girl, my brother taught me to tie my shoes.  I was so happy!             My happiness dwindled when I found out the other kindergarteners were pros at tying their shoes .

I was proud  when I completed my college degree after many years of on and off schooling, but  I noticed people my age had multiple degrees and sadly I didn’t feel as successful.

I’ve had numerous conversations with women over the years and  the reality is, they usually  feel successful until they hear about someone else’s accomplishment.  They started feeling their accomplishment was minimal in comparison to the women in their circle, on their jobs and on social media.

They set goals and put  time and effort to achieve the purpose, but they allowed their words and thoughts or the words of others to make them feel mediocre.

Why does someone else’s success have to make us feel that we haven’t succeeded?  It was their goal, so it’s their success. That’s not what you wanted… You went after what you wanted.

Theodore Roosevelt said, Comparison is the thief of joy. I can recall plenty of times when my “joy” left when I compared my success with someone else’s.


A Few tips:
  • To thine own self be true- Learn yourself, so you can determine what’s important to you
  • Material things doesn’t equate success- Material things come and go and they shouldn’t define you
  • Success takes perseverance, and it’s not for the faint at heart- your success IS a big deal
  • Don’t  allow society’s standard of success  diminish your accomplishment
  • Success looks different at different time frames in your life- Remember you’re always evolving
  • Stop putting an “Only” on your accomplishments

If you want to go back to school… Go!

If you want to learn a new skill… Do it!

If you want to write the book… Write it!

If you want to start a healthier lifestyle… Start!

If you want to start a business … Go Ahead!

If you want to travel…  Get your passport and travel!

If you want peace… Pursue it!

If you want to grow spiritually … Seek God!

You Can Do All Things through Christ who Strengthens You Philippians 4:13



Make a commitment to define your own success, and  don’t allow society to define it for you.  I’m learning that my success is not determined or dependent on the next person’s success. I don’t have to downplay what I consider success .

Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans. Proverbs 16:3

Be Kind, Be Bold & Be a Woman on the Move

Snooze Please

How many times have you pressed the snooze button?

Hey Ladies,

OMG, I’m late…

I hit  my snooze button on my alarm clock without ever opening my eyes.  I think I hit it multiple times within a course of an hour. Why did I hit the snooze button so many times this morning, so now I’m pressed for time. All my rushing, I’m not able to spend my much needed alone time with God, I can’t do my morning workout, I can’t make breakfast  and I run into rush hour traffic.

According to Webster-

Snooze- nap or something boring or uninspiring

Snooze Button- a button on an alarm clock that stops and resets the alarm for a short time later to allow for more rest

Now, if this was the only time this  happened I wouldn’t be so disappointed in myself. I’ve pressed the snooze button on my life too many times to count.  I was snoozing when I should have been working. I was snoozing when I should have been planning. I was snoozing when I should have been cleaning. I was snoozing when I should have been praying. I was snoozing when I should have been  living life.  The funny part about snoozing is you don’t realize the amount of time is passing.


Don’t get me wrong, I enjoyed the rest that was given to me by pressing snooze.

However, when I woke up I had to deal with the consequences of all that extra snoozing. I had to make some decisions in my life. Would I stay on the same course of snoozing through life because of fear, disappointment, laziness,  or would I allow my self to overcome myself?

Here’s your challenge- Ask your self- why are you snoozing on your dreams, responsibilities, relationships and your purpose. Take a look at what the bible says to us lazy folks. Yes, I had to admit it.   I was lazy.

Proverbs 6:6-11

Go to the ant, O lazy one;
Observe her ways and be wise,

Which, having no chief,
Overseer or ruler,

She prepares her food in the summer
And brings in her provisions [of food for the winter] in the harvest.

How long will you lie down, O lazy one?
When will you arise from your sleep [and learn self-discipline]?
“Yet a little sleep, a little slumber,
A little folding of the hands to lie down and rest”—
So your poverty will come like an approaching prowler who walks [slowly, but surely]
And your need [will come] like an armed man [making you helpless].



My pastor have these sayings-

  • Don’t Assume-  ( If you don’t know ask)
  • Complete The Task-( Be a finisher)
  • Follow Through- ( Keep your word)

Everyday you must make a decision  to show up for your life. Don’t snooze through life because of  laziness, difficulties, uncertainties or frustration. Live life on purpose, so no more snoozing please!


Be Kind, Be Bold and Be a Woman on the Move!!!