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I’m Strong, But I Need Help

Did you know that if you asked for help, it doesn’t make you less than?

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Hey Beautiful Lady,

Did you know that if you asked for help, it doesn’t make you less than?

Dependent– according to Webster, means “to rely on someone or something for help”

I found myself on a long road trip using my GPS, but I just had it on as a safety net. I drove for hours with the GPS volume on low and I was listening to my music. Suddenly, I heard a very faint voice that said delay was up ahead.

My GPS told me my journey had been rerouted to save me from traffic problems. The GPS gave me the option to go with the new plan or continue with the original plan.

Well to be honest, I didn’t listen to everything the GPS said to me, I just knew I didn’t want to sit in traffic.

Happily, I took the next exit to continue on my wonderful journey without any interruptions. The new course didn’t have a lot of traffic, so I’m smiling to myself thinking this is going to be great.

I turn my music back up and I’m cruising down the road until everything begin to look unfamiliar. I only made 2 turns off of 95 N, but now my roads are narrow and the lights are dim. There are a few cars driving on the road, but they are speeding down the dark road like they are familiar with the turns. The longer I drove, the more nervous I became, because I have never seen this route before. I turned on my high beams, turned down my music, and I put the GPS volume on HIGH!

I’m scared and I need help! I don’t want to be on this road by myself!!! I get a great idea that I’m going back to my familiar route, where I don’t need to be dependent on the GPS; however, I did attempt to recalculate my GPS to take me back.

The GPS calculations show it would take too long to get back to the familiar road, and I would still face the delay in traffic. I’m too far to turn back now!

I started getting angry with myself and the GPS. I don’t understand why I listened to this machine. I’m thinking who can come rescue me?

I’m thinking, I didn’t count the cost of this new journey.

I didn’t want to experience delay on my journey, but I didn’t want isolation from everyone either. Every emotion that was inside of me came out, I’m laughing, crying, and screaming; and it was at this point, that I realized I was dependent on something.

This is when I gave myself permission to depend on the GPS. The GPS didn’t give me full details of the roads, it just promised that I would avoid trouble and delay.

Eventually I relaxed, and I decided I wouldn’t be on this road forever. The road conditions didn’t change, but my mindset about this new journey changed.

Finally, I saw more vehicles and the roads became brighter. I was home!!

When you find yourself on a new life journey, don’t panic or surrender to fear. Submit to God Almighty, the one who knows the complete plan for your ministry, business, relationship, career, children, family and finances.

Repeat after me… When I am weak, He is Strong.

God wants us to become completely dependent on Him.

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in and rely confidently on the Lord with all your heart

and do not rely on your own insight or understanding.

In all your ways, know and acknowledge, and recognize Him,

And He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way].

 

Be Kind, Be Bold, Be a Woman on the Move

 

 

 

 

 

Thermostat or Thermometer… Which one are you?

round-mercury-thermostatHi Beautiful Lady,

I was listening to a sermon on the radio a while back about making a difference and we should check to see if we are being a thermostat or thermometer.  The segment only lasted about 23 minutes and he only mentioned the thermometer/thermostat part for a few seconds. However, I have  been examining myself since I heard the message.  I had to look up the meanings of these words because I was truly  curious .

The definitions according to Webster:

Thermometer  an instrument for determining temperature ( I just read the environment of the room, I  can’t control anything)

Thermostat  provides  or control the temperature( I have the power to control the environment, I dictate what I want  the room to be)

I begin to ponder on those definitions and asked myself a few questions. Do I just go with the flow of my environment/life? Do I have the power to change an environment?  Do I see things happening at work, school, family and the community and I just shake my head? I  had to be truthful with myself because sometimes  I’m just a thermometer!   I see things in my life or in the world around me that needs change and I do absolutely Nothing. A thermometer can’t change the temperature it only interpets the temperature. Remember the saying, when you know better, do better. However, we don’t always do what we know is best.

I remember working in a building and no matter how the employees felt, we had no control of how cold or hot it got.  I  felt powerless because I could be feeling really cold or hot but someone else dictated my reality .

  • Why have I taken the position of a thermometer when I have the power and abilities to be a thermostat?
  • Who locked away my power  and control behind a locked box?
  • Did I give someone my key and now they tell me what I should feel or how/when it should change?

Ladies, have you ever came in to a room and it was heavy with confusion, drama, depression, sickness, lies, un-forgiveness, self-pity  or self-defeat well what did you do? Sometimes the very room I’m talking about is your own Life. Everyday, we’re faced with the choice to go along with what we see, hear or feel or we can use our abilities to make a change.

Do you like what you see with your health, relationships, finances,  dreams, workplace, families, community and government? What have you done to change what you see? Have you gone along with the flow because you believe it will never change? Do you know how to change it? Most times when I just gave up my power, it was because I believed it has always and will forever remain  this way. I didn’t want to get involved. I felt defeated. I felt hopeless.

Why have you allowed how someone else’s  feelings dictate how you feel or react/respond?  Why have someone else’s thinking or belief  impacted your ability to move forward with your life?  He doesn’t want to be married, so why has that hindered you from believing you were good enough?  You didn’t have the best childhood growing up,so why does that control how you treat your own children? No one you know has ever owned a home or was a business owner, so why has that stopped you from pursing your dream … We have  daily encounters with people and situations which  we voluntarily and  subconsciously become thermometers.

Today, make a decision that you will be the change you want to see. Decide that you will no longer go with the flow, but you will use your God-given power to make change. Speak change, Be change and Invoke change… Everyday choose to be the best you can be, even if that means asking for help to be a better you.

The bible say, Faith without works is  dead…Put some action to the situation you desire to change. There maybe times you can’t physically change a situation or make a person change, but you can Always pray to an ALL POWERFUL GOD who can move mountains!!!

Be Kind, Be Bold and Be A Woman on the Move!