Thermostat or Thermometer… Which one are you?

round-mercury-thermostatHi Beautiful Lady,

I was listening to a sermon on the radio a while back about making a difference and we should check to see if we are being a thermostat or thermometer.  The segment only lasted about 23 minutes and he only mentioned the thermometer/thermostat part for a few seconds. However, I have  been examining myself since I heard the message.  I had to look up the meanings of these words because I was truly  curious .

The definitions according to Webster:

Thermometer  an instrument for determining temperature ( I just read the environment of the room, I  can’t control anything)

Thermostat  provides  or control the temperature( I have the power to control the environment, I dictate what I want  the room to be)

I begin to ponder on those definitions and asked myself a few questions. Do I just go with the flow of my environment/life? Do I have the power to change an environment?  Do I see things happening at work, school, family and the community and I just shake my head? I  had to be truthful with myself because sometimes  I’m just a thermometer!   I see things in my life or in the world around me that needs change and I do absolutely Nothing. A thermometer can’t change the temperature it only interpets the temperature. Remember the saying, when you know better, do better. However, we don’t always do what we know is best.

I remember working in a building and no matter how the employees felt, we had no control of how cold or hot it got.  I  felt powerless because I could be feeling really cold or hot but someone else dictated my reality .

  • Why have I taken the position of a thermometer when I have the power and abilities to be a thermostat?
  • Who locked away my power  and control behind a locked box?
  • Did I give someone my key and now they tell me what I should feel or how/when it should change?

Ladies, have you ever came in to a room and it was heavy with confusion, drama, depression, sickness, lies, un-forgiveness, self-pity  or self-defeat well what did you do? Sometimes the very room I’m talking about is your own Life. Everyday, we’re faced with the choice to go along with what we see, hear or feel or we can use our abilities to make a change.

Do you like what you see with your health, relationships, finances,  dreams, workplace, families, community and government? What have you done to change what you see? Have you gone along with the flow because you believe it will never change? Do you know how to change it? Most times when I just gave up my power, it was because I believed it has always and will forever remain  this way. I didn’t want to get involved. I felt defeated. I felt hopeless.

Why have you allowed how someone else’s  feelings dictate how you feel or react/respond?  Why have someone else’s thinking or belief  impacted your ability to move forward with your life?  He doesn’t want to be married, so why has that hindered you from believing you were good enough?  You didn’t have the best childhood growing up,so why does that control how you treat your own children? No one you know has ever owned a home or was a business owner, so why has that stopped you from pursing your dream … We have  daily encounters with people and situations which  we voluntarily and  subconsciously become thermometers.

Today, make a decision that you will be the change you want to see. Decide that you will no longer go with the flow, but you will use your God-given power to make change. Speak change, Be change and Invoke change… Everyday choose to be the best you can be, even if that means asking for help to be a better you.

The bible say, Faith without works is  dead…Put some action to the situation you desire to change. There maybe times you can’t physically change a situation or make a person change, but you can Always pray to an ALL POWERFUL GOD who can move mountains!!!

Be Kind, Be Bold and Be A Woman on the Move!

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to stop fear from ruining your future!

bird s eye view photography of road in the middle of desert

Hey Beautiful Lady,

Let’s talk about this four letter word that has enough strength to paralyze your future if you let it.

Webster defines fear as: an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger.

It’s an emotion that can control our senses, our appetite, our abilities, sleep pattern, and  the digestive tract.

We won’t admit that fear has stopped us from  moving forward  into new  careers,   new opportunities,  entering or exiting  relationships,  checking our  credit scores,  going to the doctors,  finishing  task we started, asking for raises at work, asking/giving help,   becoming entrepreneurs,  traveling the world and discovering who we truly are internally.

Am I alone , I didn’t want to be a failure so I let fear stop me from starting. I didn’t know what the unknown was so I stayed in my comfortable place.  I didn’t want to be rejected so, I never tried. Fear allowed  me to grab  any excuse  that could arise…So I let it stop me.

Fear it’s time to go…  So I can grow!

  • First be honest with yourself
  • Face your  fear, it doesn’t have to  control or cripple your decisions
  • Change and renew your thinking
  • Don’t wallow in past failures and disappointments
  • Trust the process of leaving your  comfort zone
  • Stop  self sabotage
  • Put the work in for your goals
  • Believe in yourself
  • Speak positive words of affirmation
  • Avoid negative thinking and talking

Most importantly God hasn’t given us the spirit of fear but of power, love  and of sound mind.( 2 Timothy 1:7)

Be Kind, Be Beautiful,  Be a Woman on the Move

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