Happy New Year!!

Hey Girl,

Would you consider yourself successful?  Why or why not?  I guess you’ve  probably  heard the saying  “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”  well I believe the same thing should ring true for success.

According to -success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.

How do you define success?  Does it change based on other people’s accomplishments and expectations ?  Do you consider a woman successful if she’s educated, an entrepreneur,  has a closet full of designer clothes and handbags, a big home,  a bank account full of money? What about   if the children are  in private school and a wealthy husband? 

 What if she doesn’t posses any of  those things; would you still consider her successful? What if she had a few life setbacks- she has an older model car, and lives in an apartment?   What if she shops at Ross and she doesn’t desire marriage or wealth; however, she desires to be an office manager and live a life of peace and contentment?

Have you ever accomplished a goal and you were proud  until you compared it with someone else’s life? 

I remember when I was a  little  girl, my brother taught me to tie my shoes.  I was so happy!             My happiness dwindled when I found out the other kindergarteners were pros at tying their shoes .

I was proud  when I completed my college degree after many years of on and off schooling, but  I noticed people my age had multiple degrees and sadly I didn’t feel as successful.

I’ve had numerous conversations with women over the years and  the reality is, they usually  feel successful until they hear about someone else’s accomplishment.  They started feeling their accomplishment was minimal in comparison to the women in their circle, on their jobs and on social media.

They set goals and put  time and effort to achieve the purpose, but they allowed their words and thoughts or the words of others to make them feel mediocre.

Why does someone else’s success have to make us feel that we haven’t succeeded?  It was their goal, so it’s their success. That’s not what you wanted… You went after what you wanted.

Theodore Roosevelt said, Comparison is the thief of joy. I can recall plenty of times when my “joy” left when I compared my success with someone else’s.


A Few tips:
  • To thine own self be true- Learn yourself, so you can determine what’s important to you
  • Material things doesn’t equate success- Material things come and go and they shouldn’t define you
  • Success takes perseverance, and it’s not for the faint at heart- your success IS a big deal
  • Don’t  allow society’s standard of success  diminish your accomplishment
  • Success looks different at different time frames in your life- Remember you’re always evolving
  • Stop putting an “Only” on your accomplishments

If you want to go back to school… Go!

If you want to learn a new skill… Do it!

If you want to write the book… Write it!

If you want to start a healthier lifestyle… Start!

If you want to start a business … Go Ahead!

If you want to travel…  Get your passport and travel!

If you want peace… Pursue it!

If you want to grow spiritually … Seek God!

You Can Do All Things through Christ who Strengthens You Philippians 4:13



Make a commitment to define your own success, and  don’t allow society to define it for you.  I’m learning that my success is not determined or dependent on the next person’s success. I don’t have to downplay what I consider success .

Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans. Proverbs 16:3

Be Kind, Be Bold & Be a Woman on the Move

Walking, but distracted!

Hey Beautiful Lady,

Have you ever been walking along a path and your cellphone rang and  you lost the tempo of your walk? Did you say no? Well ask the people that are watching you from on the sideline.  The other day I was walking behind a person who was walking pretty fast as though a goal was in mind. The phone rang and the upbeat walk became slower. The person was no longer ahead of me, but now,  the person was side by side with me. Did the person’s conversation slow them  down or did the enthusiasm to get to the goal change?

The person probably didn’t realize their pace had changed !!!

I noticed and wondered, has that been me… The awful truth was Yes.

Have you seen people texting and walking? I have seen people walk into people, walk  into walls, and objects. Did they plan to slow their movement, probably not. They were so distracted they didn’t notice people in their Path. Was the message so important they forgot the  plan? How could you lose track of your surroundings and not look up ?

No, I would never make something or someone  more important than my Purpose.  I would never lose track of what’s around me. Uh, the ugly truth is that I have done it before.

This is so much deeper than a cellphone!

According to Webster,
Walking is to move along on foot : advance by steps
Distraction – a thing that prevents someone from giving full attention to something else.

Ladies, let’s talk heart to heart… Who and what distracted you from your Purpose?

It’s possible to be walking and not realize you are Distracted!!

That’s the strange part because we usually believe that if someone or  something else has our attention we would be aware.

You’re probably saying, I am still moving.  You’re right, but who wants mediocrity? You used to run with passion. You used to talk about your intentions all the time. You used to have zeal about accomplishing your plan. You used to dream about it. You used to think of different ways to make it or you better.

Possible Distractions
We can be our biggest distraction with  laziness, procrastination, time management, worry, doubt, no direction, fear, excuses, lost of zeal, social media, did I mention excuses? our past failures, rejection and the list continues.

Not All distractions are bad, but check the timing and the end result. 


If it takes you off course, it’s still a distraction.


How to stay focused?

Beginning right now do a self check to see if you’re distracted, if so adjust your crown.

My Pastor did a sermon about a changed mind , changes your life.

It made me consider my life choices were dependent on what I was thinking about.

  • Be honest with yourself, what are you thinking about?
  • Does that thing have your full attention when you should be focused on something else?
  • Keep Moving Forward!

Philippians 3:12-16( MSG)

 I’m not saying that I have this all together, that I have it made. But I am well on my way, reaching out for Christ, who has so wondrously reached out for me. Friends, don’t get me wrong: By no means do I count myself an expert in all of this, but I’ve got my eye on the goal, where God is beckoning us onward—to Jesus. I’m off and running, and I’m not turning back.

 So let’s keep focused on that goal, those of us who want everything God has for us. If any of you have something else in mind, something less than total commitment, God will clear your blurred vision—you’ll see it yet! Now that we’re on the right track, let’s stay on it.

Be Kind, Be Bold & Be a Woman on the Move

With Love,